Permission to be yourself? That’s got to be some kind of fucking joke, right? Being yourself is not a crime, it’s a privilege.
There aren’t enough of us being our true selves and pursuing the things we want to pursue. All because we feel like we “need” permission or a “heads up” from others…
The problem with this mentality though is if you wait for permission to just be you, you’ll be dead before it happens.
In other words, it’ll never happen. Time is too impatient to wait around for anyone or anything.
The time to be yourself is now, not next week or next year.
If you believe or “feel” you need permission to be yourself, it’s not your fault entirely. It just means you’ve been brainwashed a little.
Or worse. It means you were pressured or manipulated into believing you need “permission” to be yourself…
But I guess that’s kinda the same thing as brainwashing anyways.
You don’t need permission to be yourself
- That article you wanted to write that expresses yourself fully…. but you’re too afraid to publish it.
- The tweet you wanted to send out but were too afraid of being criticized.
- The opinions you’d like to share with the world that you’re scared of making public.
- The silly video of yours you recorded that you’re afraid of uploading to YouTube.
- The blog you want to create to express your thoughts that you’re afraid of creating.
All this is based on the “approval mindset”, or if you want you can just call it fear based. Both are true.
If you keep “needing” others to approve of your actions first, your confidence will never rise to the point you’d like it to.
The last thing I’d want you to do is be 40 years older in the future, looking back on your life full of regrets and disappointment.
To avoid that, you’ve got to start getting used to being yourself and doing the things YOU want to do.
Especially without thinking twice and making up scenarios in your head about what he or she may think about it.
You will never gain anyone’s approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.” ― Mandy Hale
Getting rid of the “approval” mindset
Ask yourself these questions to become self aware and shift your mindset.
- Why do I seek approval for my actions?
- Why am I afraid of being my true self?
- How long have I thought like this?
- Where did this belief come from?
- What’s stopping me from revealing more of myself?
Here you’re getting to the root of the problem you’re dealing with. And becoming self aware of what’s really happening in your mind on a deep level.
By knowing the roots of the problem, you’re able to change the outcomes of the problem. Similar to how changing the roots of a fruit will change the way it turns out.
The next set of questions you’re going to ask will challenge your thinking even further. And make you realize how silly it is in reality to believe you need permission to be yourself.
- Is it against the law to be who I really am?
- Is it against the law to be my true self?
- Can I go to jail for being myself without permission?
- What’s the worst that’ll happen to me if I do what I believe in?
- What’s the worst someone could say If I express who I really am?
- What’s more important to me, being ME or being a SLAVE to other people’s expectations?
A lot of these questions can be answered with a simple yes or no, but they’re necessary.
As silly as some of those questions sound, in reality it’s nothing but the damn truth. And it’s bound to make you realize how hard you’re being on yourself.
You have a right to be yourself
You don’t need approval from
- The government.
- The police.
- The law.
- The education system.
Or anybody for that matter to be who you wanna be. It’s your birth right to be who YOU wanna be.
After all, it’s your mind, body and spirit, so how you use the three is your choice and your choice only.
Once you become aware of this and start doing it on a regular basis, your confidence will start to soar.
And you’ll be on your way to gaining the self confidence you deserve and are capable of having. 🙂
Now go out there and show the world what you’re really about! And do it with pride and confidence.