I’ve always wondered this myself.
There are people I know of. Whether it’s family, friends, or someone I know, who:
- Talks about me behind my back.
- Wants to pry into my business just so they can gossip.
- Wants to know what I’m up to for the sake of comparison.
- Asks questions about me (and yet, will NEVER ask me directly).
And these people don’t even know that I’m aware of it. That’s the funny part.
And my thought is always the same: why do these people give a fuck about what I do or how I live if it has nothing to do with them, and I’m not harming anybody?
When I say “give a fuck” I mean in a negative context.
Why are people so intent in sticking their nose into your business for malicious reasons?
I’ve come to learn these are some of the reasons, if not all:
1. POOR SELF ESTEEM
“True confidence has no room for jealousy or envy.” – Unknown
These people almost always feel shit about themselves.
They feel terrible within their own skin, are insecure, and these feelings cause them to HATE and GOSSIP about others.
Think about it: If you feel good about yourself and are comfortable in your own skin, would you spend your time sticking your nose in other people’s businesses?
Only people who relish in gossip and go out of their way to pry into your business would do that. Because their self-esteem is about as tall as a piece of horse shit.
The problem with this scenario is: these negative feelings don’t do anything for them.
They’re only dragging themselves further down into the depths of depression and despair.
2. VICTIM MENTALITY
“Stop validating your victim mentality. Shake off your self-defeating drama and embrace your innate ability to recover and achieve.” – Maraboli
You know the type of people I’m talking about.
They complain, bitch, moan, and talk as if they’re victims. And yet, are never willing to do anything to solve the problems they hate so much.
Talk is cheap after all. And action is too pricey for most.
Someone with a “victim” mentality uses words like:
- Why me?
- Life isn’t fair.
- Why is this happening to me?
- What did I to do deserve this?
Everything about this type of person revolves around themselves. ME ME ME and nothing more.
It’s enough to leave you exhausted like you just had an hour of sexy time or some shit.
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3. DULL LIFE
In other words, they have NOTHING going on in their lives that’s interesting, purposeful, exciting, or anything of the sort.
They’re just a living corpse who exist from day-to-day (or at least that’s how they feel).
Everyday is just the same day.
They don’t expect things to get better, because they don’t believe they’re capable. (See point #1).
And so what do they do?
- They pry into your business.
- They write hateful comments on YouTube videos.
- They may even spread false rumors about you.
- They gossip about you for their own entertainment.
- They find people who “seem” worse off than they are, and then gossip about it to feel better about themselves.
After all, if your life is “shit” you’ve got to find “some” form of entertainment, right?
Even if it’s in a negative context.
If I had nothing going on, I thought I was worthless, and I had a victim mentality, I’d probably be doing the same thing.
You need some way to block out the pain, misery, negative thoughts and feelings of inadequacy, and so, this is what they do.
And it never stops like a rat on a hamster wheel.
4. LACK OF SELF DISCIPLINE
If you’re unproductive, generally speaking, then you’ll have too much time on your hands.
One thing I’ve learned is – I always end up doing stupid shit whenever I’m unproductive.
Boredom leads to stupidity. And the longer you’re bored, the stupider you become.
It’s the same for people in general.
Think about how kids commit crime or anti social behavior. They’re bored, “feel” there is nothing to do, and so they end up doing nothing productive. And that leads to doing dumb shit.
Or like how you could be searching for a specific YouTube video to learn something educational, then a silly video comes up in suggestions, you click on it, and you end up wasting hours of your time.
Lack of discipline leads to doing something you didn’t plan on.
Usually that’s something stupid, or sometimes even worse.
This is why people like this pry into your business. Even if you’re doing nothing wrong. And even if you’ve done nothing wrong to them.
And even if you have no idea who they are. Or why they care so much about tearing you down.
“What they say or think about you is just a reflection of how they feel on the inside.”