I just Googled the words – follow your dreams.
Google brought up over 699 MILLION results for that term.
Now I’ve just Googled the term – why you should follow your dreams. And there’s over 727 million results for that term.
The point I’m making is – the concept of following your dreams is an extremely popular one. And it’s encouraged by many writers, bloggers, and people of that nature.
But what If you’re NOT in the right mindset to go after your dreams in the first place?
What If you’re getting in your own way? What If you’re tripping over yourself?
If you’re your own worst enemy, the “why” behind following your dreams doesn’t matter.
Because you won’t do it no matter how many motivational posts you read or inspirational videos you watch.
Here are 23 Authentic Reasons To NOT Follow Your Dreams.
At least until you confront each and every one of these issues, excuses, obstacles, and ways of thinking.
1. You’re afraid of spending your money
Going after your dreams means you’ll be investing a LOT of your money into building those dreams. And making those dreams a reality.
You’ll have to buy the best books, read the best blogs, study, learn, buy equipment, work on your goals daily, make time for your dreams, make sacrifices and so on.
One way or another, money WILL come into the picture.
So If you’re not willing to spend and invest your money into your dreams, then you shouldn’t be following them.
2. You’re not willing to take a risk
I crossed a busy road the other day in Manchester. Some drivers were speeding, some weren’t.
Crossing a busy road is risky, but I still did it. Just as millions and millions of other people continue to do so across the world.
If you’re willing to risk crossing a busy road to get to the other side, but you’re not willing to take a risk on pursuing your dreams, you have no business following them. Plain and simple.
3. You no longer believe in it
If your dream was to become an astronaut, but you don’t believe in that dream anymore, then quit. And move on to something else. Problem solved.
Doing things you no longer believe in is like being in a relationship with someone you don’t care about. It’s a waste of your time, and your future will thank you for it.
4. It’s somebody else’s dream
She followed her dream of creating manga/Anime instead. And it worked out extremely well for her.
But that’s not the case with many people. A LOT of us are following somebody else’s dream. Believing it’s our own dreams when they’re clearly not. And have been doing so for years or even decades.
When you follow someone else’s dream and abandon your own dreams in the process, your happiness suffers.
If that’s the situation you’re in, and you’re self aware enough, give up immediately.
5. You’re not willing to put in the extra hours
I used to be the one not willing to put in the extra hours. I wasn’t willing to put in the extra time to commit to my dreams, craft, goals and everything related to it.
If you’re stuck in the habit of watching 8 hours of TV, or you make excuses like “I don’t have enough time”, then don’t bother. You’re not serious enough.
6. You’re afraid of being judged by those around you
If you’re a human being I have bad news for you. People are gonna judge you no matter WHAT you do with your life.
Whether you succeed or don’t succeed, go after your dreams or don’t go after your dreams, people WILL judge you regardless.
So either put up with it, or cower in fear. There’s nothing you can do to escape that fact.
7. You don’t have the skills/talents necessary
Kids are BIG dreamers. And often they have a dream to be one thing, only to realize it’s not a fit for their skills and talents. So they move onto the next dream.
If it’s your dream to become a singer, but your voice is incapable of being developed to a good enough standard, then it’s game over.
No sense in pursuing something you’re terrible at doing. Unless you’re a masochist, of course.
Stick to your strengths.
8. You feel it’s a waste of time and energy
Going after your big dreams and big goals takes a lot of time and effort. No matter how “smart” you want to work.
If you’ve convinced yourself it’s a waste of your time and energy, then either don’t do it or stop doing it.
Being 50% focused is worse than being 100% focused.
9. You believe the naysayers are right
Naysayers are lurking in every single alleyway towards your goals and your dreams. Or anything else that’s grandiose or worth striving for.
If you succumb to the bullshit naysayers whisper into your ears, then give up before you even get started. Because you’ll end up doing it one way or another if you’re that sensitive to criticism.
10. You’re not willing to invest for the long term
One lesson we can all learn from college and university is – anything worth having is a long term investment.
If you’re a short term thinker, or worse, you get high off instant gratification, give up today. Right this second. Time is precious and shouldn’t be wasted on something you ain’t committed to.
11. You’d rather live an unhappy life with ordinary goals
Entrepreneurship is glorified these days. Celebrities are no different.
And every other blogger, self-help guru, or coach is telling you to follow your dreams.
But If you’re not interested in living out your dreams, making sacrifices, doing what makes you happy, and taking a risk to design your own version of an extraordinary life, then don’t bother.
Settle for an ordinary life with ordinary goals. Nobody can force you, after all.
12. Everybody around you doesn’t follow their dreams, so why should you?
If this is your mentality and you’re too stubborn to open up your mind, then so be it. If all the sheep are following the herd, you may as well follow suit, right?
13. You’re too impatient
It’s said he applied for NASA for 18 years in a row before he was accepted. 18 YEARS. Most people aren’t even willing to dedicate 1 YEAR of their life to the things they want, never mind 18 years.
If your patience muscle is weak and fragile right now, you may as well give up. At least that way you’ll save yourself a lot of time that would have been wasted.
14. You’re not clear on what it is you want
When I was a musician, aka a rapper, I did it more for fun than anything else. Eventually I quit for a number of reasons.
One of those reasons being I wasn’t clear on what I wanted out of it. I got honest with myself and realized I had no real purpose, vision or drive for it.
If you’re not clear on what it is you want specifically from your dreams and goals, don’t get started until you do. Or else you’ll “burn out” in no time.
15. You believe you’re always right
If you’re always right, you’ll have a hard time learning from your mistakes, or knowing what your strengths and weaknesses are.
And you’ll fail to educate yourself and learn from others who are where you want to be.
Do that for long enough and you’ll end up giving up on your dreams. All because you’re too blind to the obstacles that are standing right in front of you.
16. You’re too comfortable
If it feels comfortable staying exactly where you are, then stay there and don’t trouble yourself.
There’s no sense in giving a half hearted approach to making your dreams come true.
17. You’d rather be controlled by fear than take a leap of faith
If you prefer being held in a dangerously tight headlock by your fears, then continue to be a slave to your fears and bow down to its every command.
But just know that type of attitude won’t cut it if your serious about taking that leap of faith and going for it.
18. You’re jealous of people living the “dreams” you aspire to
“You’ve got dreams of being a famous artist, but you diss every rapper who made it like they’re garbage.” – Chamillionaire
You want to be a successful actor, yet you despise every successful actor on the planet because they have what you don’t have.
If this sounds like you, you’ve already shot yourself in the foot without realizing it. But at least now you know why your efforts seem handicapped.
19. You have an “either, or” mentality
You believe you HAVE to be born rich to be rich. You have to be born lucky to be lucky.
You believe you can’t have the dream and be happy at the same time. Or you believe you can’t have the success while loving what you do.
If this is true, then you’re better off reversing the brainwashing first before going after your dreams.
Or else you’ll choke on the bullshit beliefs that were forced down your throat. Which will only get in the way.
20. Your dreams are unethical
Not much to say about this. Other than if it feels unethical to you, it goes against your beliefs, and it makes you feel like a fraud, avoid it at all costs.
21. You believe you’re entitled to everything you want
If you’re like this woman in the UK who has never worked, is on benefits, has 11 kids, complained to the government about her house not being big enough, and then was funded £500,000 out of tax payers money to live in a luxurious home, then don’t follow your dreams.
You’re entitled to everything, after all.
And going after your dreams knowing success won’t be handed to you on a plate, would be a stupid thing to do as far as you see it.
22. You believe you have all the “time” in the world
Maybe your parents, Grandma, Grandpa, Uncle, professor, or some stranger convinced you that time is limitless. Especially if you’re just a teenager or a millennial.
Whatever the reason is behind your beliefs, don’t go after your dreams. Do it later. Because you’ve clearly got more time on this earth than everybody else has.
23. You’d rather live the YOLO lifestyle
If you’d rather party hard Monday to Friday, or every weekend for the rest of your life.
If you’d rather buy things you don’t need, to impress people you don’t know or LIKE, snort drugs, pop pills, pop mollies and pretend to a live a BALLER’S lifestyle, then fuck your dreams.
Who needs a dream when you’re in a dream 24/7 after getting so high, you can no longer see the ground? That’s a dream in itself.
You can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue in their actions. – Unknown