I’m petulant, I get mad, I’m anxious sometimes, and nothing is ever enough for me.
These are some of my favourite things about myself.
No, I’m not a masochist, or maybe I am. I don’t know. I just know that these things give me my hunger. My hunger to always be improving and my desire to create a better life for me and my family.
Nobody really knows anything, so why are we so quick to judge what is good and what is bad…
I’m petulant when things don’t go my way, I class myself as unlucky sometimes. But then, I love losing and when all the odds are against me.
This is when I really excel. I want to stick it to everyone and validate myself. Not because I care about what they think, but because I believe in myself that much.
I love proving myself right.
Sometimes I weirdly go out of my way to put these chips on my shoulder
I’ll look at houses, cars, and holidays I can’t afford. I’ll put forward bold ideas in any situation.
I used to play in adult golf competitions when I was a kid. I launched a clothing line out of the blue on my blog. I made my first house purchase a property development project. In any game or sports, I always want to be playing against people better than me.
Always stand next to the smartest person in the room. And if that’s you, you’re in the wrong room.
I know that I can learn something from everyone. Then I put myself out there and learn by doing.
DOING is the only way to achieve mastery, at anything.
Audacity is critical. This is my secret sauce to doing, to getting started.
You have to try things that others will think you’re crazy for. My wife said to me, “who in the world is going to buy your t-shirts, except maybe your mother?”
Let’s fucking see.
And you know what, it doesn’t matter! I learnt how to do basic graphic design and now I have some great products.
If I only sell one (thanks Mum!) I’ve learnt new skills and got the blog even more credibility by putting my products out there. It cost me no money either.
Never a failure, always a lesson.
Audacity is the game
If you wait to become an expert before starting something, you’re never going to become an expert. I’ve never cared one bit about experience or qualifications. If I only did things I was qualified for, I’d be sweeping floors somewhere for money.
If I practiced writing in private for years instead of starting my blog 14 months ago, I wouldn’t have readers from over 90 countries.
Practice in public, that is the secret to 10x growth.
The best scared I’ve ever been is when I hit publish on my first ever blog post. In fact, it wasn’t, it was when I then shared it with the world across my social media. Well, not the world, but my scarce number of followers at the time.
Then guess what happened…?!?
Nobody gave a fuck.
When you change your scene – how other people see you and what they expect of you, we always expect a backlash.
‘He can’t just become a writer overnight!’ ‘What’s happening here??’
But everybody is far too concerned with figuring out their own shit. Nobody cares about you initially.
More chips! Collect them all up. That’s what I did.
I got better. And better. And better. Until I started getting attention. Then I wanted to get even better still. Never stop. Always be improving and refining. I’ve got a lot to learn and a very long way to go.
Once I’ve got X, I’ll want Y. Even though a year ago X may have seemed like the holy grail.
There’s another thing you need to know…
When you start getting good and doing well, something crazy happens…
People start to hate you.
These people are your friends and family. I’m pretty sure I’ve lost friends because of my writing. I’m sure that the people closest to me secretly resent when things are going well for me.
I don’t hate them back for this, it is human nature. I want my friends to win, but I don’t want them to do better than me. Right! Don’t lie to yourself and claim that you’ve never thought this way.
These are some of the most powerful chips to have on your shoulder:
- Your close friends doing better than you, or…
- Your close friends not cheering you on 100% and belittling what you’re doing to improve your life.
Stick it to your doubters, whoever they are, and make yourself proud every day.
Be your number one fan, and never allow anyone to validate you other than yourself.
You are the judge, jury and executioner of your own life
Don’t look back when you’re 90 and think, “I shouldn’t have listened to Dave in the pub, Dave was a fucking loser! Dave has no money, no freedom, and his wife hates him.”
Apart from dying, regret is the scariest thing in life to me. We have one life. One shot to live out our dreams.
Go out there and get yours. Use the chips on your shoulder to drive you to greatness.
And if this concept doesn’t fire you up, what can I say…
You’re shit out of luck my friend.
– Matthew Brown.