This year there will be high school kids who “fail” their exams.
And will be branded as a “failure” by the education system. And even their parents who pressure them into being a straight A student.
This year there will be businesses that shut their doors permanently. Because of a lack of sales, customers and what not.
And this year there will be “failed” relationships because of a lack of communication, or simply a mismatch in personalities, goals and interests.
Stereo-typically speaking, these groups of people will be considered “failures” either by themselves, or society itself.
But in all honesty either situation is miles from “true” failure. And that goes for any related situations and circumstances.
There’s only 1 simple way to define failure.
1. Giving up on your dreams, goals, and the purpose you’re striving for.
I came across a similar question the other day on Quora about defining failure.
This is what failure is NOT:
- Going out of business.
- Not passing your exams.
- Not doing X by a certain age.
- Walking away from a bad marriage or relationship.
- Being made redundant for no fault of your own.
- Not being a straight A student.
- Not going to University and getting a degree.
- Not having X by a certain age.
Nope, that’s NOT what failure is.
- Failure is when a person gives up on their dreams, goals and the purpose their striving for.
- Failure is when a person gives up on the things that matter to them most, and “settle” for less.
- Failure is when you give up on your ambitions, your vision, and going after the things you desire.
- Failure is when you not only quit on what you’re doing, but when you QUIT on yourself.
- Failure is when you give up on yourself, then try discouraging others who are committed to their success.
- Failure is when you not only give up, but when you start justifying giving up on the thing that drives you as a human being.
- Failure is when you not only give up, but make excuses for why you gave up to make yourself feel better.
That is what true failure is.
There’s a difference between making mistakes and bouncing back, then giving up on your dreams entirely.
And there’s a difference between making mistakes and keeping your eyes on the prize regardless.
Once you give up on your dreams and goals 100%, your soul dies a slow and painful death.
Or as the saying goes —
Some people die at 25 and it’s not made official until they’re 75.
So the next time you feel like a failure, remind yourself that you’re far from it.
Because as long as you’re fully committed to the goal, the dream, the target, you’re more of a success than you are a failure. Simple as that!
“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal.”
― Earl Nightingale