Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent. – Marilyn vos Savant
Sometimes I feel like giving up just as many of you may feel. I’m no different.
Regardless of how committed I am to my goals, aims, dreams, I feel like giving up sometimes when things aren’t going my way.
Sometimes I feel like “what’s the use” when the wall I’m attempting to jump over seems too high.
Or whenever I feel like there’s no other solution to get over the wall and achieve what I desire.
Or when life flies by and bird shits all over my efforts, actions and attempts.
Or when the strategies and ideas I come up with are about as useful as dial-up internet from the 90’s.
Or when I face countless rejections that barely lead to a yes or a maybe.
But then I slap myself before being reminded of my reasons.
Jim Rohn said having reasons to be successful is a MAJOR part of creating it.
He used an example of a man who said his family is what drove him to be successful.
The drive to take care of them and allow them to live a better life was a big motivation for the man.
Well, Jim Rohn’s right. When you have not just reasons, but BIG reasons, it keeps you highly motivated.
And that motivation is what will drive you to be successful and do whatever it takes to make it a reality.
Family is personally a big driver for me to create massive success within my life.
Independence is also another big driver for me, as well as freedom of choice and the ability to contribute on a larger scale.
THAT’S what keeps me going whenever I feel like waving the flag and slitting the throat of my dreams and ambitions.
Sometimes I feel like giving up, but that would be unethical.
Giving up on your dreams, goals, promises, ideals, targets, aims and vows is unethical.
Making a bold statement and not living up to it is unethical.
Talking that talk but not walking your talk is unethical.
Devoting yourself to your goals and giving up too soon is unethical.
The same way you see a criminal as unethical for stealing from an elderly woman, is the same way you should see giving up.
They’re no different.
If you truly believe in what you’re doing, and achieving it would be life changing, giving up would be nothing short of unethical.
Whenever I feel like “saying uncle” I remind myself of the fact that quitting guarantees I’ll never get any further than I have.
And it reminds me of this soul cutting, straightforward quote below.
Sometimes I feel like giving up, but then I look at how far I’ve come.
If you’re walking down the right path and you’re willing to keep walking, eventually you’ll make progress. – Barack Obama
By November this year (It’s august 2015) I would have been running this blog for 3 years.
I’m committed to the long term and have left my past mistakes in the garbage bin. Past mistakes like:
- Giving up too soon.
- Being inconsistent.
- Thinking short term instead of long term.
- Not investing in my future.
- Getting distracted by so called “opportunities”.
- Not being laser focused in the areas I perform best in.
- Not having a plan, a vision or goals.
- Switching from one thing to the next.
- Not fully committing myself to anything.
Time is no different to a natural disaster. It doesn’t wait for you to prepare yourself, it just happens.
Time has no interest in having a seat and waiting for you to get your shit straight. Time waits for no one.
I’ve learned this from my past inconsistencies and as a result, I’ve made SO much personal progress.
I’ve also started an online business within that time frame. That business taught me what I’m capable of and how much potential I have.
As well as teaching me a lot about business, myself and so on. It’s amazing what can happen within 2+ years.
I’ve come far and I intend to go further. Failure’s not an option.
If people have done it before you, It CAN be done
So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable. – Christopher Reeve
What’s funny is when you tell people you feel like quitting, everybody who quit on their dreams will start crawling out of the caves they hid themselves in.
They’ll tell you all sorts of stories, lies, BS and justifications like:
- I know how you feel, I won’t feel bad if you do.
- It’s OK to quit, don’t take it personally.
- Not everything works out in life.
- It’s hard to succeed in this city, environment, etc.
- You can’t always get what you want.
- Dreams don’t always come true.
- It takes luck to succeed.
- Who knows, maybe it’ll happen one day.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Every single of of those statements is bullshit. The only people who will tell you such BS are those who have QUIT themselves.
So they use those statements and beliefs disguised as lies to justify their actions. And more so to justify yours.
Ignore the naysayers. Act like you can’t hear what they’re saying…
Before founding the successful American company – Macy’s, the owner had started seven failed businesses.
Before founding the company Ford, Henry Ford had many failed attempts in other businesses.
Before hitting it big as a billionaire, Mark Cuban had more failed businesses than the average entrepreneur can count.
Before succeeding with UK fashion brand Ultimo, Michelle Mone was over £100K in debt.
Before becoming a successful public speaker, Les Brown was labeled educably mentally retarded. And was born in a low income section of Miami.
Must I continue?
There are countless examples of people who’ve made it within EVERY industry, business or career.
If people have done it before you, there’s no reason you can’t do it yourself.
That’s what I remind myself of every single day whenever I come across challenges.
Don’t allow the quitters, losers and naysayers to invade your mind and poison it with lies and justifications.
The proof is there, so use that as fuel to push you, motivate you and pull you towards your desires.
How do you deal with it when you feel like giving up? What brings you back up? Let me know in the comments!