Introverts are freaks of nature.
You’d think that’s true based on how society shuns introverts and puts extroverts on a pedestal.
Problem is: taking advice from extroverts about how you should act and behave is dangerous. Because even if you wanna deny it, you can’t change your introversion. Because you can’t “change” your biology.
So take it from an introvert, and study the best ways to live your life as an introvert. Without comprising who you are, and staying sane and happy in the process…
1. Stop trying to be an extrovert
How the F could it be so simple? Because that’s just how it is.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my 25+ years of life, the best solutions are stupidly simple. NOT complicated.
So the next time you see an article titled: “How To Be A Great Networker” or “how to be more charismatic” I want you to realize one thing: the article is absolute bullshit in the context of being an introvert.
You can’t become what you aren’t. So accept your introversion with open arms, and stop being duped into nonsensical articles that claim: “you can become more extroverted”.
The fact is: you can’t, and there’s no need to. It’s not practical either.
2. Stop denying your introverted traits
“I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.” ~ Audrey Hepburn
The sooner you decide to accept your introversion, the better.
Like my last point, trying to be something you’re not is detrimental to your long-term happiness.
So instead of denying the person you see in the mirror everyday, learn to accept it. And realize IT’S OK to be introverted. It’s OK to be different. And it’s OK to be a little “abnormal” in the eyes of society.
And if anyone tries telling you otherwise, trust me, they’re pushing their own insecurities, fears and fragile ego onto you. Hoping you’ll take the bait and chew on the lies they’ve cooked up for you.
3. Be straightforward
If you don’t want to do “extroverted” stuff with “extroverts” every day of the week, be upfront about it instead of being “polite” and killing your vibe.
It’s no fun hanging out in the corner of a nightclub, drinking, chatting, and “pretending” to be enjoying yourself when you’d rather be in solitude. Or doing some introverted shit like introverts do. 😉
4. Associate with introverts
Not everyone should be an introvert. You’re not forming a cult. But associating with other introverts will help you better understand yourself and relate.
Introverts go through the same things you deal with, too. And being able to communicate with other introverts will lift the heavy weights off your shoulders, allowing you to sigh with relief.
5. Be yourself
“A good rule of thumb is that any environment that consistently leaves you feeling bad about who you are is the wrong environment.” ~ Laurie Helgoe
Corny? Yes. “Be yourself” is corny as fuck. I’ll admit it.
But it’s the damn truth.
Instead of getting caught up in “being an introvert”, just realize you are who you are. So live life in a way that suits your characteristics.
If you do that, happiness won’t run away in the opposite direction. And instead happiness will tag along with you, wherever you decide to go. Kind of like a guardian angel.
6. Practice self awareness
The more you know yourself, the better decisions you’ll be able to make in regards to your “introverted” nature. Along with your personality in general.
How do you practice self awareness?
- What do you love more than anything else?
- What do you hate the most?
- What irritates you?
- What’s your version of a “good” day?
- What’s the perfect schedule for you?
The more questions you ask, the more answers you’ll land on. Knowing yourself makes it easier to live life on your terms, while being at peace with yourself. And tailoring things to your advantage.
Any thoughts? I’m listening…