How To Find Out WHO You Are In 17+ Simple Steps

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Admittedly, there is a lot of bullshit when it comes to this topic.

A lot of:

  • Head in the clouds.
  • Mumbo jumbo.
  • Jibberish.

And other nonsense the personal development space is too known for.

This post is based on measurable facts that can determine:

  • Who you are.
  • How you are.
  • What kinds of things define you.
  • And what that looks like.

And this can be used as a measure to figure out who you are based on the results.

Let’s get into it.


1. Look at your habits

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Habits are the holy grail. Nothing defines a person more than their habits regardless of what it is you claim to be underneath.

Habits are what the world sees after all.

  • How you wake up.
  • What do you do first thing in the morning?
  • The things you say.
  • And the actions running your life consistently.

Whatever that looks like, that’s who you are, meaning if you don’t like it you can change it.


2. Look at your interests

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I’m clearly interested in views like this (UK).

What do you like? What do you enjoy doing?

I’m interested in a lot of things:

  • Writing.
  • Self expression.
  • Travelling the world.
  • Seeing new places.
  • Running and starting businesses.
  • Working for myself.
  • Creating books.
  • Watching anime.
  • Watching documentaries.
  • Learning about certain cultures, history, etc.
  • Women of all countries and backgrounds.

My interests are part of who I am, no different to yourself or anyone else.


3. Look at your Google history

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Your Google history is so telling of who you are that there are MEMES about it.

What you searched, what you discovered, the websites you visited, and everything in between.

It reveals a lot about yourself.


4. Look at your YouTube history

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The same thing applies, but it can be a bit deeper in the context of the video.

What videos you watch, the channels you subscribe to, the amount of times you watch certain videos in certain categories and a lot more than that.

Are you wasting time or using it productively?


5. Look at the books you read

One of the books I read in 2023  was The Millionaire Fastlane. And The Psychology Of Money.

What does that say about me?

A few things:

  • I’m interested in being rich.
  • I’m interested in making more money.
  • I’m curious.
  • I wanna learn.
  • Money matters to me.

And so on.

I also read the book Essentialism in 2023, which means I value time, productivity, and focus.


6. Look at the music you listen to

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I like the song Good Morning by ChamillionaireI also enjoy the song “Growing Up” by Ice Cube.

That says something about me, but not everything about me.

What about you?

It may reveal something depending on how deep you go.


7. Look at your passions

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Travelling can be a passion.

I like:

  • Writing.
  • Sharing my message.
  • Being creative.
  • Building things.
  • Starting new projects.
  • Travelling.
  • Making an impact.
  • Business.
  • Art.
  • Selling.
  • Standing up for what’s right.

And other things I’d consider to be passionate about.

This speaks to my character on some level.


8. Look at the TV programs and films you watch


Obviously, if you watch serial killer documentaries it doesn’t mean you’re the making of one, but it does define you on some level.

No different to regular TV programs, films, anime, so-called “reality TV”, and other things.

It’s also the type of shows you watch that play a role in shaping who you are.


9. Look at the things you tolerate


This is a big one.

If you tolerate bullies, it says something about you, one of which is you’re insecure and you don’t have any boundaries.

If you tolerate only the BEST when it comes to quality of work that speaks to your standards, goals, and what you strive for.

What you tolerate is so critical that this one thing alone can impact you in ways other points in this post can’t.


10. Look at your friends, family and those in your circle

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Who you surround yourself with is another critical factor in who you are.

Do you hang out with:

  • Snakes.
  • Backstabbers.
  • Dickeads.
  • People who gossip.
  • People who put others down.
  • Bitch, complain, moan, yet do nothing about it?
  • Point fingers.
  • Are racist behind closed doors?
  • Are dishonest.

Then that says a lot about you. It means you’re one of those people, or it means again, you have no boundaries and you let others walk all over you, as well as preferring to stay silent and be complicit in bad behaviour despite NOT agreeing with it.

This affects your outlook, your results, your life, your work, and everything you can imagine.

That’s why cutting people off or spending less time with certain people is a gift to your future.

Same if you’re spending time with people who are uplifting you.


11.  Look at your environment


Your environment says a lot about what you end up doing, your actions, habits, mindset, and the rest of it.

It’s not as if you can’t power through a bad environment, but setting up your environment for success will always be to your benefit.

If you allow bad energy into your environment, that speaks to your character (and vice versa).

If you allow your environment to get out of control, that also speaks to who you are on a fundamental level.

Relevant: Are Motivational Speakers Useless?


13. Look at the things you care about


If you care so much about the homeless and making change, that speaks to what you are.

What about caring about things like what the latest celebrity is up to, or their divorce, etc? That speaks to your character as well, but not for the best of reasons.

Whatever it is, if you care deeply about it, it’s either a hindrance or a benefit, but it’s definitely a piece of who you are at this moment in time.


14. Look at your wardrobe and the clothes you have in it

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What clothes do like to wear? Hoodies? Shirts? Blazers? Suits?

What matters most here is not what you wear, but HOW you wear it, how you carry yourself, and how you take care of your appearance even if you wear “basic” clothing.

Someone wearing a hoodie can look put together but someone wearing a blazer might not know how to take care of themselves, and so it shows.

This of course speaks to who a person is based on their actions in this category.


15. Look at your dreams, goals, possessions and obsessions

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Do you have goals to make a lot of money? Or to start a business that serves the local community?

Do you have figurines stuffed in your closet? Or signed shirts from a celebrity, or cars, tech, monuments, and so on?

Are you obsessed with music because of what it does for you, or gaming, or keeping things clean, etc?

These things are part of who you are and define you on a daily basis. No exceptions.


16. Observe your thoughts


What thoughts are running through your mind all the time? What do you think about at night?

What keeps you awake? What is your predominant thought when you see someone of a certain race, background, culture, or skin colour?

Not all your thoughts are your own thoughts, but the consistent ones have shaped your mindset for better or for worse.

Pay attention, and change them if needed through action.


17. Look at the things you believe in

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Whst do you beleuev in? What do you believe is right or wrong? Context aside, beliefs are the ultimate definer for who a person is if you ask me.

Beliefs are powerful. They’re naturally things you’ll always speak passionately about and feel strongly.

Beliefs can drive you into the dirt or into paradise as far as peace, lifestyle, and quality of life. They can be the reason you end up in the right relationship with the right person.

Beliefs speak strongly to who you are, even if not 100%.

You’re the sum total of all of those things and probably more.

If there’s something you don’t like about any of them, identify it, find a solution and change it.


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