In November/December 2014, I emailed the Huffington post and reached out to them. Pitching them my articles, and selling them on why I deserve to be a contributor.
I’m not exaggerating when I say I’ve sent well over 100+ emails to the Huff post.
I don’t mean “spam”, I mean emails sent over the course of months in total.
And out of ALL the emails I’ve sent and pitched, they responded to maybe 1 or 2.
One of those emails was Arianna Huffington herself, but I never heard back from Arianna or her assistant who was “supposed” to get in touch with me.
Does that mean she was full of shit? Not at all. Who knows.
It just means she (or her assistant) were either too busy to follow-up, or they decided I wasn’t worth their time.
And I wasn’t about to lose sleep over it!
Everybody gets rejected
In late 2014 I pitched a whole bunch of blogs in the personal development space. And MANY of them have flat-out rejected my content.
Some never bothered to even respond to my emails. No matter how many times I’ve pitched them from time to time.
And since 2017 I’ve emailed 100’s of websites for all kinds of reasons.
I even reached out to them on social media to make sure they didn’t “miss” my message.
If you add this to the amount of times I’ve pitched these blogs on top of the Huffington post, it starts to look pretty ugly. Yet I push past each ugly rejection knowing I’ll get what I want, eventually (in fact I did).
And I refuse to complain, moan, bitch, or be a victim over something I’m not in 100% control of.
It’s someone else’s opinion after all.
Everybody gets rejected, and you have to get over it
Many of us get rejected by that 1 girl/guy we like, and that’s enough for us to crawl into a hole and die. With your self esteem crushed to bits like an Apple being run through a blender.
Some of us get rejected on our exams because we fail to hit a certain number of marks. And that’s enough for us to quit on ourselves.
In fact I got rejected on my exams in school. We’re talking D’s, E’s, F’s and U’s.
I was academically retarded.
Some of us get rejected by our families or society, because of sexual orientation. Or because we refuse to follow family tradition or “religious” beliefs.
Being rejected by the ones you love is painful and cruel.
But let me tell you now, in the grand scheme of things: these rejections are SMALL.
if a rejection that small is a problem, you need a reality check.
That’s not being harsh, that’s speaking the truth.
Life is too long to care about people who don’t like or agree with you.
Rejection is part of the process
I was obviously no exception to this rule. Most people quit after the first few emails, never mind 100.
In spite of that, how do I manage to keep going, keep pushing, and keep persevering?
Why am I so determined, and how? How do I find the drive and motivation to push past it?
In the ugly face of rejection, how can YOU muster up the courage, confidence, then follow-up until you get the thing you want?
It’s not easy. It’s hard. It’s challenging. It’s tough. It’s uncute (not a word, I know).
But the best way to handle rejection Is to keep your eyes on the prize
Keep your reasons intact, and don’t forget your WHY. Don’t forget why you’re trying to achieve whatever it is you’re trying to do.
Don’t forget how rewarding it’ll be when you finally get the thing you want. And don’t forget about how life-changing it will be.
Don’t forget how much closer to your goals you’ll be once it’s accomplished. And don’t forget to approach each rejection logically, never emotionally.
Never lash out and never criticize. And especially never seek revenge for being turned down.
When you approach rejection logically, you’re able to see what you can learn from it and what you can do better next time.
Like for example – maybe you’re dating in the wrong town. The wrong bar. The wrong neighborhood.
Or maybe your writing is even more terrible than you thought.. And now you see the reason your writing was rejected by a publisher. Etc.
When you look at rejection emotionally, you’ll end up beating yourself up, thinking less of yourself, wasting time, and being irrational.
Which will only lead to quitting and giving up, because you’ll make tons of excuses that’ll stand in your way.
“Rejection doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. It means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer.” — Unknown
I know what I want. And I know how I’ll get it.
If someone rejects me along the way? Cool. That’s good, I’ll use it as fuel to ignite my drive and determination.
Rejection is a part of life. Don’t hate it, embrace it, love it and own it.
Just make sure that you:
- Keep your eyes on the prize.
- Focus on what you want.
- Learn from the experience.
- Improve yourself instead of crying about being rejected.
- And find out another way to succeed. There’s always more than one way to reach your destination.
Do that, and getting over rejection will become a video game.
Instead of getting stressed, you’ll enjoy the process. It becomes fun. And that makes the rewards that much more satisfying once you finally get what you want.