We can’t help what we’re taught when growing up. After all, you’re not in control until you become old enough and self aware enough.

Society brainwashes and spoon feeds us bullshit throughout our entire lives.

And it’s too easy to not just take on these beliefs, but to accept them as truth. Even if the damage they do is obvious.

Here are 5 of the biggest lies society has taught me.

1. Settle down, get a mortgage, and you’ll live happily ever after

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What it’s “supposed” to look like. 

Settle down definition:

to begin to live a quiet and steady life by getting a regular job, getting married, etc.

I dislike the word “regular”. Who wants a regular job, an average marriage, and a sub-par life that’s below the thing we truly want?

Where’s the happiness in compromising?

Would you want to be tied down to a mortgage for the next 10–20 years, unable to move as if you’re a rat trapped in a financial cage?

I’ve yet to meet a person spouting these lies who is living happily ever after, and enjoying their lives.

2. You can be anything you want

Parents are one of the biggest culprits of this. The reality is nobody is given an equal opportunity in life. And nobody is talented at everything.

There is no such thing as Equivalent Exchange (where for everything you give, you’ll get an equal amount in return).

You can’t be anything you want. The only thing you can be is YOU. And that’s it.

Some kids do well academically for a reason. While others are great artists, writers, retailers, salesman, and so on.

3. You have to do what you’re told

Why is this a lie? Because the people who tell you this are trying to control you.

If you blindly do what you’re told, this happens:

  • You’ll never speak your mind.
  • You won’t do the things you believe in.
  • You’ll seek permission to do things.
  • You’ll depend on other people’s opinions.
  • You’ll give your power away to others.
  • You’ll do things even if it’s not in your best interests (Like how depressed teenagers study to become lawyers, etc, because their parents “know” what’s best for them)

4. A house is an asset

5 Of The Biggest Lies In Society You Believe To Be True

Saying a house is an asset is like saying paying your bills is an asset. It’s the biggest lie society teaches us to believe when it’s completely false. And a fucking joke to say the least.

If it takes your money, and you have to keep paying for it, it’s a liability not an asset.

People love to lie to themselves because it helps them rationalize and believe they’ve made a great decision.

Nobody likes the truth.

5. Looks don’t matter

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Saying looks don’t matter sounds great and all. But it’s a lie.

What’s the first thing you notice when you see somebody? Their shining personality and kind heart? What a fucking joke.

We are 90% visual beings

It doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about online dating, being interviewed, approaching someone in the street, following someone on social media, or something related….

Why? Because the first thing we pay attention to, and the thing that determines how interested we are (especially for the opposite sex) is the way we look.

From head to toe.

Personality, kindness, or whatever traits you find attractive come AFTER you’ve seen what a person looks like.

There’s no arguing with that point. There’s a difference between wanting to be politically correct, and saying it like it is.

We all know looks matter deep down, no matter how nice or in denial we are.

What are the biggest lies in society that you’d add to this list? Share your thoughts