When you’re done reading this post, you might wanna read: 7 Celebrities Who Started Out With Poor Self Esteem.
If celebrities who’ve had poor self esteem were able to overcome it, you can too. Russell Brand is the perfect leading example.
First let’s get into the consequences of poor self esteem, and we’ll cover how to avoid it so you can start building up your self esteem.
1. People will take advantage of your poor self esteem
You can’t always be nice. That’s how people take advantage of you. Sometimes you need to set boundaries. – Unknown
When I experienced bullying, this same thing happened to me. I had little self esteem, and far from enough confidence to speak my mind. Bullies took advantage of that, and preyed on me, knowing I wouldn’t do anything about it. Like a pack of wolves preying on a lonely sheep.
If people know you won’t do anything about it, they’ll take advantage of your self esteem. Whether fair or unfair, it’s true that people treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
A poor self esteem is like a walking advertisement that says – “I allow people to take advantage of me, because I’m unwilling to do anything about it.”
Even If your own so called friends, or even family will take advantage of you. And in some cases, your own parents if they’re twisted enough.
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2. People may not associate with you because of the vibes you give off
It’s not fair, and it may not sound right, but it’s the cold hard truth. Poor self esteem isn’t sexy, and some people are turned off by it.
Others will avoid you. Some people will even go as far to look down and pity you. And others will talk shit behind your back because of it. As If you’re any less of a human being then they are.
3. You’ll take things a lot harder than most people
I never felt secure within myself. I felt like a pile of shit laying by the roadside. A pile of shit nobody cared for, paid any attention to, and if they did, they were disgusted by it and didn’t wanna go anywhere near it.
That’s how I felt and that’s why I took things a lot harder than others. Taking sensitive to a whole new level, and poor self esteem to a whole new level of poor.
When little things bothered me, it stung like salt being put on a wound. That made it difficult for me to deal with things that in reality, weren’t as stressful or problematic as I made it out to be.
4. You’ll be too attached to certain things
A 27 year old killed himself after betting his life savings on France winning the Euro in 2016. A bet he lost out on.
In another story, a millionaire in the UK was living beyond his means, had £4 million worth of debt, and ended up committing suicide because of it.
What has this got to do with self esteem? EVERYTHING.
When you attach your self esteem to materialistic things, you put yourself in danger. When you’re too attached to something, it becomes that much more difficult to deal with if you LOSE it.
And in a lot of cases, it leads to suicide, depression, being mentally unstable, a rise in blood pressure, or an unhealthy amount of stress.
Attaching your self esteem to materialism or money is like saying – “Money has more worth than my own life does.”
And you affirm that by attaching your self worth to materialistic possessions, or even the thought of success, fame, recognition and respect.
5. You won’t feel comfortable in your own skin
Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about knowing and accepting who you are. – Ellen Degeneres
The worst feeling you can experience is being uncomfortable in your own skin.
It’s almost like wearing an outfit that makes you feel disgusting on the inside, regardless of how it looks on the outside. Or wearing something that makes you feel horrible, inside and out, on a daily basis.
The average person lives for 70-80 years supposedly, and the last thing you need is to live that long feeling uncomfortable and terrible in your own skin. You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life, after all.
6. You may hold yourself to a lower standard, and even compare yourself to others while putting yourself down
Comparison is the devil. if you’re sick of meeting the devil, then stop praising others while putting yourself down. #selfconfidence
— Theo J Ellis (@TheoJEllis) July 16, 2016
Think of a 5 star restaurant. It has high standards which involve:
- Quality of food
- Customer service
- The layout
If you compare that to a Restaurant that has poor reviews, you’ll notice the opposite is true. Which is why they get put out of business eventually.
You’ve got to treat yourself and your life the exact same way. The higher the standards you set, the better you’ll feel about yourself and the better experiences you’ll have in your life.
As well as the better experiences other people will have when they’re around you.
When I let others bully me, I held myself to a lower standard without even realizing it. The same was true for the types of people I’d allow into my circle, and the ways in which I’d put myself down.
6 Consequences Of Poor Self Esteem, And How To Avoid It:
1. Do more of what makes you feel good about yourself
Why give you a ridiculously long list of things to do, when I can make it as simple as possible for you?
Self esteem is mostly about how good you feel about yourself, and how you comfortable you are in your own skin. So this is a good area of focus.
Write out a list of:
- People who make you feel good about yourself. Celebrities, friends, musicians, family, etc.
- Activities that make you feel good about yourself. Acting, singing, writing, exercising, volunteering, etc.
- Things that you’re either good at doing, or find easy to do.
And anything else that’s related to the 3 things mentioned.
The reason why some people have a healthy self esteem is because they do one of the 3 things, or all of them. You can’t feel good about yourself if 95% of your day is filled with things you hate, despise, or things that go against your values and beliefs.
Or even things you’re no good at doing. There’s no enjoyment in that, and there’s happiness in that either.
Stick to this list and tell me how it goes!
If you need help with bullying, check out this post: The Most Helpful Ways To Overcome Bullying