Running away from rejection doesn’t solve the problem. I already tried that many times and my self esteem was punched in the face every time I tried it. And believe me, it fucking hurt.
And taking the “perfectionist” approach doesn’t work either. As reality will remind you after your self esteem takes a blow to the head.
It’s time to stop causing yourself unnecessary headache when it comes to dealing with rejection. And it’s my goal to have that problem solved for you right now.
5 Painful Mistakes To Avoid When Dealing With Rejection.
1. Getting caught up in your ego
When I first started blogging I got caught up in my own ego. Instead of pitching more blogs to be a contributor, I held back because of the pain of rejection.
This happens when you attach your self esteem and your ego to your outcomes. If you get attached to your rejections, you not only end up hating yourself, but you end up avoiding rejection all together because it’s too painful to deal with.
So tell your ego to sit on the sidelines and shut it’s mouth. Tie it down if you have to. And you’ll have less problems in the face of rejection, which will help you overcome each and every one of them.
2. Throwing in the towel
You have a choice. You can throw in the towel, or use it to wipe the sweat off your face. – Unknown
The most painful mistake to make is throwing in the towel and giving up on yourself. Because the pain of quitting is worse than the pain of trying and trying, even if you are rejected.
Instead of backing down from your fears, and allowing the possibility of rejection to be bigger than you, keep your eyes on the prize and remind yourself WHY you’re doing what you’re doing.
As long as you have reasons and you have a strong purpose, that’s more than enough to push through each NO you face, and overcome your personal challenges.
Just make sure the reward, the PAY OFF is big enough to justify the rejections you’ll face along the way.
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3. Not learning from it
Mistakes are meant for learning, not repeating. – Unknown
When I first started blogging on the internet, the structure of my writing was terrible. Paragraphs were too long, there was too little space between my text, and it was hard to read.
I made mistakes, and I’ve learned from every single of them. If I didn’t, I’d be delusional.
The same is true for dealing with rejection
If you keep getting rejected over and over again, and you don’t even take the time to learn from your rejections, there’s no way the outcome is ever gonna turnout the way you’d like it to.
You have to look at what might have went wrong. Look at what could be done better next time on your part. Look at what you can improve on to be better prepared the next time.
Knowledge is power, but only if you use it and only it’s the RIGHT kind of knowledge. So take the time to work on your self improvement and sharpening your skills. Then you’ll eventually overcome your rejections and make some real progress.
4. Not moving on quickly enough
Speed is power. – Grant Cardone
Whenever I faced rejection in the past, I spent too much time worrying about the rejections I faced. Complaining, moaning, playing the victim, and telling myself how “unfair” it is.
Think of the guy/girl who has a relationship break up, or they lose their job. Those who spend too much time dwelling in it, take too long to overcome it. Then they end up never being able to push past their obstacles.
If you put all your time and energy into worrying about each rejection you face, you’ll not only stress yourself out, but you’ll take too long to get over it. And if you take too long to get over it, you’ll end up losing your drive and motivation to push past it.
So spend less time thinking, and more time doing.
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5. Treating it emotionally instead of logically
No matter the situation, never let your emotions overpower your intelligence. – Unknown
Whenever I faced rejection in the past, I looked at it through emotional eyes instead of logical eyes. I’d consider anybody a hater if they rejected me, regardless of the type of rejection I had to face.
The problem with that is you’re shooting yourself in the foot without even being aware of it. Which is dangerous.
You can’t overcome rejection by being a little bitch about it, being upset, or throwing a tantrum because things haven’t gone your way.
You overcome rejection by looking at your actions, asking questions, reviewing the situation, looking at what could have been better, and staying focused on what’s important.
This takes practice, so practice often and don’t make or get caught up in any excuses.
Do that and you’ll be able to deal with rejection more sensibly and easily.
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